Wednesday, November 14, 2012

HOW I AM CONNECTED WITH YOU…….!!





     Happiness is much worthy when the things are materialistic as its not available in Multinational Mall or anywhere in the market what everyone use the term and so try to keep it secondary the materials you need and try to connect with others first if you need Happiness.

   With this above sentence which starts with Happiness and ends with happiness, is the reason for connecting with you and I and with others and how I got full of happiness in my life. The very African saying “Go alone if you want to run faster and go together if you want to run longer” does make a lot of sense when you compare with this competitive material world and how I am connected with you all and my happiness. So the option is with you either you will chose a faster run or a longer.
    
     So giving a fraction of a minute to think about you, care about you, loving you, remembering you, doing something for you, sharing with you, praying for you and with all these fractions of minutes which I share in my life connects with you more than anything else. And this is the reason for your happiness and how I got full of happiness in my life. So all of we are connected and can be connected, this is how I am connected with you.

Dedicated to you all dear readers of my blog.

AD……..

Sunday, November 4, 2012

BE WITH THESE LINES ........




ONE MINUTE TEACHER: HOW TO TEACH OTHERS TO TEACH THEMSELVES
BY SPENCER JOHNSON, M.D. AND CONSTANCE JOHNSON, M.ED.


ONE MINUTE GOAL SETTING:

Using the steps below, encourage your clients to set goals for themselves and take one minute a few times a day to look at their goals.

  1. I take the time to quietly think, with my head and my heart about what I want to teach myself. And then I decide what my goals are.
  2. I write my goals in first person, present tense, as though I am already achieving my Goals. (For example: “I am enjoying getting a B in math.”)
  3. I write down my goals briefly, so I can read them often in only one Minute.
  4. I am specific when writing my goal. I set a date to achieve my goal. (For example: “I am enjoying a B on this Thursday’s English Exam.”)
  5. I use good- feeling words. (For example: I enjoy……) Each time I read my goal, I imagine how good I feel.
  6. I take one minute, several times a day, to stop and look at my goals and to look at my behavior and then I see if my behavior matches my goals.

ONE MINUTE PRAISINGS:

Encourage your clients to reflect on or catch themselves doing something right by flowing these steps:

1.      I praise myself immediately.
2.      As soon as I have done something right, I tell myself specifically what I did right, or approximately right.
3.      I tell myself how good I feel about what I did right. I pause for a few seconds to really feel my success.
4.      I remind myself that I am indeed a good person.
5.      I encourage myself to continue the same good behavior because I want to feel good again soon about my behavior and about myself.

ONE MINUTE RECOVERY:

When a client’s behavior does not align with his/her own goals, encourage the client to practice the One Minute Recovery.

  The First half of the Minute:

1.      As soon as possible I see when my behavior does not match my goal.
2.      I tell myself specifically what I did wrong – what is keeping me from teaching myself what I want to learn.
3.      I am silent for a few seconds to quietly feel my “Fumble”. The more uncomfortable I feel, the more I want to recover.

  The second half of the Minute:

1.      I remind myself that my behavior is not good right now, but that I am good. I redirect my behavior and feel good about myself. I do not defend my behavior, even to myself.
2.      I teach myself what to learn. I change my behavior and recover.

WE ALWAYS NEED A TURNING POINT AND ALWAYS EAGER FOR THAT



HOW MANY TIMES YOU REPEAT THE SAME MISTAKES YOU MADE IN YOUR LIFE....!!!

May be not able to change it or corrected it or not able to knew it or nobody is there to help you out....!!

So get your answer....!!






Saturday, March 31, 2012

THE MOST IMPORTANT STAGE OF EVERY HUMAN IS OUR CHILDHOOD

Every child will become a man one day, but every man are different when they will be grown up as a responsible man. Even though science itself has already proved that every child started speaking when they were in mother’s womb, but why everyone speaks with different voices when they comes out. Some are with the voice of peace and some with the voice of cruelty. So instead of blaming each other when our responsibility is not properly taking care, just let’s try to have a better beginning with a better childhood which is the basis for every responsible man.

Pregnancy is meant for the most beautiful moment for every woman but she have to take care for her own baby since it grown up from a single cell to a fully grown human. The food she will be eating will be the food for her baby biologically, the thoughts of fear and worry she face will image over her baby, the surrounding she have need to change before the baby comes out, the neat and cleanliness of everything have to be utmost important to clear from every possible germs of diseases which may be prolonged even to her baby. As with this modernization everything seems to be accessible and can be bought by money only but really it is not like that with what nature have gifted with us. Taking words from our older generation and specialize doctors who are really meant for serving humanity with their gifted nature of caring for every human for does and don’t( and kindly pass it to others also and share without feeling any hesitation as this will save every childhood), obeying the rules of peaceful surrounding for the sacrifice of our going to be come out baby, taking nutritious food which our older generation use to obey and what we term in science as balance diet, etc etc are some of collection from my unscientific mind.

Then here comes the most important stage of we human, our childhood. What we have to feed them, how we have to take care for their behavior, what we have to teach them, what we should not show them. So all of these will make every possible difference and change when they will grown up with others. The strength of their immune system with nutritious food and taking care of neat and cleanliness , the things he/she have seen very frequently and that imaged in their mind that sown the seed for lifelong may be for good or bad, the sound she/he frequently heard makes them to change every voice when they grown up, the negligence by every parents to them makes them more negligence when they grown up. So a better future is with every completely healthy childhood.

So if we need a change, then let’s take these changes also one of the most important words of wisdom.

(This article is to be noted down by every policy makers and everyone who are parents and who will be parents one day for a healthy society and resourceful with peace and prosperous society with its own process of growth. Kindly try to take more words from related books and persons who are specialized in this field as here I am just showing a reminder as we human are so forgettable.)



.....AD

Friday, March 30, 2012

WHAT I LEARNT FROM MY LIFE TILL NOW..!!

Life is so beauty just because it gains a lot till upto it lost at the end. So no matter what you learnt till upto now be your happiness and an achievement. It comes out from my frustrated mind when I was thinking that what I have done from my long list of wishes and plans with my growing intuition and the idea which it cultivates apart from my inherited capability. As it was said that life and inheritance is all about a biological trick which is much fitted with our natural growth. So here I brings out some memorable parts and lessons what I learnt from my own life.

It was during my days of teaching, really fate is also like that we are born for something but we are placed at somewhere. But still I loved teaching and even I respect every teachers; that’s why I never missed to meet my teachers whenever I got chance. As I joined teaching at my earliest age and my assistant was there before me for more than a decade in that institute when I joined. And one thing is also there, to good everything seems to be good. So thus, as he is good he seems myself is also good enough to assist. So here starts we two’s story, a story which I learnt everything about how to look after to those who helps you and should be helped by any means. “Why we should not take care for the growth of our juniors by profession, as they are the one who stands as strong pillers for our growth.” Even though after working for more than a decade my assistant was much experienced but the very system which is present at everywhere needs a standard qualification to push up him to the better place to get all those benefits which are there. So as he is less qualified with much experienced, he needs my help to get a better qualification. With the help of my suggestion (of completing his certificate exams with distance mode without leaving the job) and support, he enrolled for further study with that much confidence to me to get more support and at last he got his certificate with a lot of smiley in his face and informed to me about his happiness. But the sad thing was that, I was going to leave that institute on that day with my personal gain in somewhere which I got better opportunity.

Since I started earning for my life I earned some shared of my earning for my happiness which is much more valued than just living a normal life. Sometimes if we will look into our surrounding we will find more of repetition than new hopes and rays of light. So the money I saved without indulging in much happier form of modern life style like drinking, smoking, roaming…etc etc…(as myself a teacher for my own life, I learnt from my continuous process of learning that all such activities are more harmful than anything else if we concerned for a better life.) But I tried to spent it for a different purpose, (otherwise really I missed so many things and happenings of life what everyone knows about our life.) So I have been making the habit of joining hands with my teachers, so visiting to schools located in the far off end corners and help them with my best support. Thus it brings million dollar happiness with my own hard work and Let the happiness be the part of our life.

So who said you are not successful…….!!!

Saturday, January 7, 2012

NEW YEAR RESOLUTION……!!


American’s write much better English, obviously as English is their mother tongue and thus so while sharing the following few lines, I may not be that too much good like you are as English is not my mother tongue but still I use English in a better sense to express my views clearly than any other language (a big mistake of mine).

And above all these I am quite happy to say I am happy with everyone of you all’s warm acceptance over my various views in the last so many years or months or days which are gone by without any words of displeasure or disrespectful over any of the issues. So here again I am going to share some of the words of my New Year resolution which we all can together have a common value for living a life with a lot of value and happiness.

To LOVE our loving ones, starting from our parents ! During my school days I was not able to get a chance to watched Tom hanks’ “Saving Private Ryan”, really a brave soldier in the mid-field of war and death cried loudly with mama mama’s LOVE, I want your love, get me back to you when he is near to death! So when I got a chance to watch again, tears may not be enough to falls down in that remembrance. What a nature of we human have by nature, care them and LOVE them as much as you can. LOVE your loving ones to share how much you love and care for him or her. Life should be full of LOVE.

I repeat this sentences again from somewhere I have mentioned or taken out as this seems to be much appreciable for the reason why still I care for you. We humans are of again two fold classification by nature, one is called “RADIATOR” and another “Drain”, a RADIATOR is one who makes you happy with what he/she shares with you, one who cares you with his/her caring nature, one who supports and encouraged you for every step of your life, one who makes you easy to take every risk of your life purposely. And DRAIN, a one who drains out your happiness, takes your help to lose your spirit of going ahead, one who makes you down just because of his/her nature. So I care you in retaliation to preserve you as my RADIATOR. Try this with every RADIATORS whom you are eager for.

Our CAREER is what we make ourselves distress. But how comes it possible to make ourselves in a society with meritocracy where everyone should be graded, visiting cards are more important than how much I love my job. But the trend have changed a lot as “What are you doing?” is the first question when we meet each other for the first time after a long gap, and that answer makes the first difference, thus the judgment of ourselves is more dangerous than anything else when we talked about our CAREER. So why can’t we think someone’s job profile as his or her sympathy over that option of career instead of comparison over what you are doing.

Obviously, LAUGHING is a good medicine for everything what we bear in our mind over tension and worry. And really, it’s quite repetition from the very factual observation that nowadays we hardly LAUGH out for maximum of 5 minutes in our busy 60X24 minutes of the day. Care yourself after that you can care for others, if you longs yourself is what you needed in your world make it corrected with a bigger number of you such a lot of loners as the world needs groups not a singleton. Our society needs you and your care to bring so many people to LAUGH.

PEACE over war, Who dares all these as try to defeat others rules the rate of our success. But let’s make this defeat over others inside our four sided boundations only as the time has come to defeat our own failure by our own success of correcting our mistakes. Let’s correct it and brings PEACE of mind.

Let’s try for another PREAMBLE of our new year CONSTITUTION of our journey of life.


AD.......